| Ladies and gentlemen Dwayne is doing great. First, some of you visiting my site and reading this have no clue what has happened since we moved to Kansas City, MO. I'll give a quick update/run down of events and then address the, am I okay questions. Second, we were living in Kansas City from July 20, 2007 until February 27, 2008. In December we came to AR. to visit family, see a Dr., and celebrate a a few B-Day's. We had to come back the second week of January to see a breast specialist to see what was causing a lump in my brides right breast. The Dr. said he would need to keep an eye on it and probably do a biopsy in six weeks (from the Jan. visit). He gave Shana a vitamin, and some oil stuff to try to shrink the lump. It did some but not enough. He wanted to see Shana again in March We decided this was going to be a long-term thing and felt it necessary to move back to AR. to be close to friends, family, and the Dr. She had a lumpectomy in March, and a few days later we were told it was cancer. On April 2 Shana had a double mastectomy and we have seen a few other cancer fighting doctors. Now, going into the question this post is about, people are asking how I'm holding-up. How's Dwayne with this (perhaps meaning, is Dwayne okay that... you don't have breast for him to play with?, or questions similar to that. You are a smart people you know what I'm saying.) Many of you reading this are here from Shana's site, and many of you have asked here, "How's Dwayne doing, is he okay with everything?" Well, I'm doing great. I'll tell you how I'm processing everything and what I think, and some who read this may be offended with my wording of things, but I'm okay with that. As I have said to people about music lyrics, and pictures including forms of art is this, "Don't read too much into it." I am very deeply in love with my bride. I did not marry her for her chest, ability to become pregnant, grow hair, sexual activity, eye color, or education, political stance, or any other factor that can and may change at a moments notice for no explainable reason. I fell in love with her because I saw her heart and said, "WOW!!! That's beautiful!!!" I saw her mind (critical thinking and discussion about the Holy abilities) when getting to know her heart and then I asked my Creator if she was a candidate I could team up with to grow His Kingdom and show His glory to all the earth who came in contact with us. He said "YES." Even if she gets alzheimers in her older age I will still love her because I know her heart, and her God. What about reconstruction? I'm fine with her not having reconstruction. Many people don't understand that, most of whom are in the "church." This concerns me greatly! Are we followers of Jesus to be concernd with such vanity things such as making sure we fit in with the cultural society in which we live. We are to be distinctly different in our pursuit of happiness and fulfillment as it is not able to be found in the things of this world, including our earthly bodies. I don't intend on offending anyone who reads this, and I do not condemn those who do have reconstruction, even if they are Christian. For many people it is a deeply emotional thing I am unable to fully comprehend, so I am in no way casting a judgement on others. I am saying that I know my bride, and I will stand beside, and support her in her decisions concerning reconstruction. Again, I fell in love with Shana, not her breast. Now Dwayne is a little tired. I have had my normal work schedule, and added in many of the things Shana did around the house. I already did dishes, trash, periodic laundry, and some general house cleaning, and taking care of the chillins. I am doing more now, and I am okay with that. I have more opportunity to show my bride that I love her than ever before. I must say here finally that the marriage I have with Shana was not, is not and will not be based upon the same principles many in this world have based thier marriages on. Sex, money, physical health, or failure to communicate and "unreconcileable differences" are not reasons to abandon the love of my life. I am hers, she is mine. I will live with my bride in an understanding way full of compassion, and protection, and seeking her happiness by presenting her to God, The Father, as a pure bride for Him to use for His glory. I don't want to offend and I do not ask that you see things the same way I do, as I don't see everything the same way you do. But I do ask for you to consider yourself and if you may have to at sometime in life go through the same trials, what would you really do? Think critically about it, check the options and all the possible outcomes or consequences, both good and bad, of those options. Which would you have peace about that also gives you the better chance of living longer to show more of the glory of God on this earth? You do want to show Gods glory don't you? Until all hear of the GOODNESS of my King and His FAITHFULNESS to me and my family, Dwayne Wilson AKA: Daddy_Wayne |
